Contact Right
CONTACT RIGHT
Where men choose who they become
RULES OF
ENGAGEMENT
How are you engaging today?
How are you engaging today?
Solo Mode
HOW THIS WORKS
Life is hard. Choose your hard.

No performance required. No fixing. Just honesty, courage, and showing up for yourself.

1
Read the Word
Read the word and its definition slowly — twice. Make sure you understand what it means before moving on.
2
Let the First Question Land
Read it. Let it sit. Don't rush the answer. Collect your thoughts before you write anything down.
3
Let the Second Question Land
Read it. Let it land. Sit with the discomfort if it's there.
4
Choose Your Path
Write your thoughts and the path you're choosing. Be honest.
5
Done. Send It.
Hit the button. Your responses are emailed to you as a record of where you stood and what you chose.
One on One
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
Life is hard. Choose your hard.

Read these rules aloud together before you begin. Both men are bound by them.

1
Speak Truth — No Masks
In this space, we say what is real — not what sounds right. This is a place for honesty, not image.
2
What Is Said Here Stays Here
What we share in this room stays in this room. Confidentiality is non-negotiable. This space only works if it is safe.
3
Listen to Understand
When a man is speaking, we do not interrupt, we do not fix, we do not one-up. We honour him by fully hearing him.
4
No Advice Without Permission
We speak only from our own experience. "When I faced this..." — never "You should..."
5
Lean Into Discomfort
If it feels hard, we're probably in the right place. We lean in — we don't retreat.
6
Take Action
This session ends with one clear step forward. Insight without action is useless.
7
Commit to the Process
Transformation doesn't happen in one conversation. We show up consistently — that's what changes a man.
8
When the Floor Opens — Two Responses Only
After a man shares, the floor opens. There are two permitted responses:

Share from experience. Something from your own story that this word surfaced — not a response to what he said. Either man can do this.

A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see in him, what you know of him. A call-up can only come from someone who actually knows him. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet.
Suggested Run Sheet
20'
Warm Up — Choose One
Loosen the room before you go deep. Pick the option that fits the group.
Option A — Card Games
A few rounds of general card games to warm up. Browse the games list →
Option B — Stoke the Fire
Each man draws a warm-up card from the app. One question, light touch — gets the room talking before the main session.
5'
Sign In & Rules
Both men scan the QR code, sign in, and read through the rules of engagement.
60'
Contact Right — Card Session
Draw a card each or share one card. Reflect, respond, share from experience, and commit to your path.
85'
Total Session
A full evening that stays purposeful from start to finish.
Squad Member
RULES OF ENGAGEMENT
Life is hard. Choose your hard.

Your Squad Leader will read these rules aloud. Follow along and hold every man in the room to them — including yourself.

1
Speak Truth — No Masks
In this room, we say what is real — not what sounds right. This is a place for honesty, not image.
2
What Is Said Here Stays Here
What is shared in this room stays in this room. Confidentiality is non-negotiable. This space only works if every man keeps it safe.
3
Listen to Understand
When a man is speaking, we do not interrupt, we do not fix, we do not one-up. We honour him by fully hearing him.
4
No Advice Without Permission
We speak only from our own experience. "When I faced this..." — never "You should..."
5
Lean Into Discomfort
If it feels hard, we're in the right place. We lean in — we don't retreat.
6
Take Action
This session ends with one clear step forward from every man. Insight without action is useless.
7
Commit to the Process
Transformation doesn't happen in one conversation. We show up consistently — that's what changes a man.
8
When the Floor Opens — Two Responses Only
After a man shares, I'll open the floor. There are two permitted responses:

Share from experience. Something from your own story that this word surfaced — not a response to what he said. Any man in the room can do this.

A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see in him, what you know of him. A call-up can only come from someone who actually knows him personally. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet and let those who do speak.
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Leadership
TRAINING KIT
Study before you lead
Before your first session — three things
1
Read this training in full. Don't skim it. Every section exists because something went wrong without it.
2
Prepare your Level 3 demonstration. Know what you're going to say before the men arrive. The room rises to the depth you set — so set it deliberately.
3
Set the session timer before anyone arrives. You lead — you don't scramble. Have everything ready before the first man walks in.
Contact Right App QR Code
Squad Scan-In
GET THE MEN IN
Hold this up when the session starts. Every man scans to open the app directly — no typing, no searching.
Contents
→ Managing Group Dynamics → Leadership Ground Rules → Suggested Run Sheet → Sharing from Experience → The Demonstration Card → How to Run a Session → Lead Your Squad
Managing Group Dynamics
Your job is to protect the space — for the quiet man as much as the loud one.
The Dominant Man
He fills silence and redirects to himself. Don't confront publicly. Thank and redirect: "Good. Let's hear from the others before we come back to you." The structure is your authority, not your personality.
The Man Who Rambles
Interrupt with respect: "I want to stop you there — can you land it in one sentence for the group?" Make the time limit the reason, not a judgment on him.
The Disengaged Man
Call him in, not out: "[Name], this word — does anything come up for you?" If he's not ready: "No pressure. You can pass and come back." Never leave him invisible.
The Advice-Giver
Redirect consistently: "Speak from your own story, brother. What did this look like for you personally?" He'll adjust if you hold the line without making him wrong.
Emotional Intensity
Slow everything down: "Take your time. We're not in a rush." Don't fix it. Let it be present. Check in with him privately after.
Leadership Ground Rules
You are a facilitator, not a teacher. Your role is to hold the space, not fill it.
Phone Protocol
Phone Protocol
The phone is a tool, not a presence. Men are here to connect — not to sit behind screens. Your job as leader is to enforce this clearly and consistently.
Phones Up To draw or select the card. To read the word and definition. To write thoughts during silent reflection. To complete and send at the end.
Phones Down For everything else — sharing, listening, the group opening, calling him up, the man closing. Any time a man is speaking or being heard, phones are on the table face down.
Say it at the start: "Phones are a tool tonight, not a companion. I'll tell you when to pick them up. When I don't, they're down."
The most important rule
YOU SET THE DEPTH
You set the depth of the conversation through the demonstration card — before anyone draws. When you deliver Level 3 with genuine weight, every man in the room knows what honest sharing sounds like. The session rises to meet the standard you set.
✗ If the first man shares shallow, the room stays shallow. Every man after him will match that depth.
✓ If you go deep and honest first, you give every man in the room permission to do the same. The session rises or falls on this moment.
Don't wait to see what the room does. The room is waiting to see what you do.
2
Protect the silence
Don't fill every pause. Silence is doing work. Let it breathe at least 10 seconds before moving on.
3
Hold the time
Every man gets equal time. Use a visible timer if needed — it removes the awkwardness of cutting someone off.
4
Name what you see
If the room goes flat: "We've gone a bit heady — let's bring it back to what's real for each of you."
5
End with action
Never close without each man stating one specific action. Vague commitments don't change men.
Suggested Run Sheet
A standard session runs 90 minutes. Use this as your template.
Suggested Run Sheet
20'
Warm Up — Choose One
Men arrive and loosen up before the session begins. Pick the option that fits the group.
Option A — Card Games
A few rounds of general card games to warm up the room. Browse the games list →
Option B — Stoke the Fire
Each man draws a warm-up card from the app. One question, light touch — gets the room talking before the main session. Works especially well if the group doesn't know each other well.
8'
Scan In, Sign Up & Rules
Members scan the QR code and sign in as Squad Member. You read the rules aloud. Everyone ticks their agreement.
60'
Contact Right — Card Session
Follow the 10-step session structure above. Phones up only to draw the card, write thoughts, and send. Phones down for all sharing and listening.
+30'
Optional — Second Card
If time and energy allow, invite another man to draw and repeat from step 5 of the session structure.
90'
Total Session
One card minimum. Two cards if the room has the energy. Always end with each man stating one action aloud.
Sharing from Experience
The only permission to speak into another man's situation is from your own lived experience.
Sounds like
✓ "When I faced something similar, what I found was..."
✓ "I've been in that place. For me it looked like..."
✓ "I don't have an answer, but I know what it cost me when I didn't face it..."
Does not sound like
✗ "What you need to do is..."  ✗ "If I were you I would..."  ✗ "You should really..."

Your redirect: "Speak from your own experience, brother. What did it look like for you?"

Before You Begin — The Demonstration Card
Before anyone draws a real card, you set the depth of the room. This is how you do it without making it about you or any one man.
Why this works
A demonstration card is read before any real card is drawn. It's framed as an example — not a personal share, not a real session draw. You walk the group through three levels of response to show them what depth looks like. The standard is set before anyone is on the spot. When real cards are drawn, every man already knows what honest sharing sounds like.
How to run it
1
Tell the group: "Before we draw, I want to show you what this looks like. I'm going to read a word and give you three different ways a man might respond — so you can see the range."
2
Read the demonstration word and its definition aloud — slowly, twice. Then read the two questions. Pause. Let it land.
3
Walk through the three levels yourself. Read each one clearly. When you get to Level 3 — deliver it with genuine weight. This is where you set the depth. The room will feel the difference.
4
Say: "That's the range. Nobody's being graded. But this space works best when men are willing to go to Level 3. Now let's draw."
The Demonstration Card
Demonstration Word — not in the Forge deck
EFFORT
The consistent application of your energy toward what matters — not bursts of intensity, but the daily, unremarkable work of showing up even when you don't feel like it.
Question 1
Where in your life right now are you giving real effort — and where are you coasting?
Question 2
What would the people closest to you say you've been putting minimal effort into lately?
Three Levels of Response
LEVEL 1
Surface — Safe, No Real Exposure
"I work pretty hard. I put a lot of effort into my job and I think I'm pretty consistent. Could probably do more at the gym but overall I'd say I'm doing alright. Maybe a 7 out of 10."
Factual. Positive framing. No real admission. The room stays comfortable — and shallow.
LEVEL 2
Honest — Admits a Gap
"Professionally I work hard — maybe too hard. But if I'm being honest, I've been coming home empty and my family gets whatever's left. My effort at work is real. My effort at home has been pretty minimal and I know it."
Names a real tension. Admits what's lacking. The room starts to open.
LEVEL 3
Deep — No Deflection
"The honest answer is I've been using work as an escape. The effort I put in there feels productive and controlled — home is messy and I don't always know what to do. So I default to what I'm good at and I'm slowly checking out of the things that actually matter. My wife has said something. I haven't done much about it."
This is what you're aiming for. Deliver this one yourself, with weight. The room will feel it — and rise to meet it.
Note: You don't need to tell the group which level they should aim for. Reading all three in sequence does the work. Most men will self-select Level 2 or 3 once they've heard what it sounds like. The demonstration card is never discussed — it's just the calibration before the real session begins.
How to Run a Session
A standard session runs 60–90 minutes. Work through these phases in order.
1
Scan In & Sign Up 5 min
Invite members to scan the QR code, select Squad Member, and sign in. You sign in as Squad Leader separately.
2
Read the Rules Aloud 3 min
Read each rule aloud. Members follow on their screens and tick their agreement. Then announce the deck: "We are running with the Forge deck today."
Rules of Engagement — Read Aloud
1
Speak Truth — No Masks
In this room, we say what is real — not what sounds right. This is a place for honesty, not image.
2
What Is Said Here Stays Here
What is shared in this room stays in this room. Confidentiality is non-negotiable. This space only works if every man keeps it safe.
3
Listen to Understand
When a man is speaking, we do not interrupt, we do not fix, we do not one-up. We honour him by fully hearing him.
4
No Advice Without Permission
We speak only from our own experience. "When I faced this..." — never "You should..."
5
Lean Into Discomfort
If it feels hard, we're in the right place. We lean in — we don't retreat.
6
Take Action
This session ends with one clear step forward from every man. Insight without action is useless.
7
Commit to the Process
Transformation doesn't happen in one conversation. We show up consistently — that's what changes a man.
8
When the Floor Opens — Two Responses Only
After a man shares, I'll open the floor. Two responses are permitted:

Share from experience. Something from your own story this word surfaced — not a reaction to what he said. Any man in the room can do this.

A call-up. Strength spoken directly into him — what you see, what you know of him. Only from someone who actually knows him personally. If you don't know the man, you stay quiet.
3
Draw the Card 2 min
Invite one man to draw a card in the app. He reads the word and definition aloud — slowly, twice. Phones down after the card is read. Every man has heard the word. Now put the device away and be present.
4
Silent Reflection 10 min
You read the two questions aloud. Every man sits with them in silence — no phones, no writing yet. Just thinking. After a full minute of quiet, invite them to pick up their phones and write their thoughts in the app. Phones down again once they've written.
5
The Man Who Drew Shares 5–8 min
He shares what came up for him and the path he is choosing. The group listens without interruption. No responses yet — just witness him.
If you drew the card
As leader, if you drew the card — you share first and you share deep. The room will follow your lead. Don't hold back. This is the moment that sets the depth of the entire session.
6
Open the Floor 5–10 min
Open it up: "Anyone got something to say — shared experience or a call-up?" Some men will have something; some won't. Don't go around the circle. Let it come naturally.

Shared experience comes from a man's own story — not a response to the man who shared. A call-up speaks strength directly into him — but only from someone who actually knows him. A call-up from a stranger lands hollow. If you don't know the man, stay quiet and let those who do speak.
7
The Man Closes 2–3 min
He gives his closing thought. He may revise his path based on what was shared and the encouragement received. His words, his choice. The group receives it without comment.
8
Complete & Send 5 min
Phones up. Every man opens the app, finalises his thoughts, path chosen, and self-rating, then hits Done. Send It. Give them the time — don't rush this. Phones down once sent.
10
Draw Another or End Leader's call
You call it. If time and energy allow, invite another man to draw and repeat from step 5. Otherwise close the session — each man states one action aloud before you end.
60'
Minimum
90'
Recommended
10'
Silent reflection
5'
Complete & send
Lead Your Squad
You've done the work. Now go lead.
The men in your squad don't need a perfect leader. They need a present one — someone who shows up, holds the space, and goes first. You set the depth through the demonstration card. You protect the room by enforcing the rules. You give every man permission to be honest by being honest yourself.

That's the job. It's not complicated. It just takes courage.
Squad Leader
SET TIMER
Minutes per card for this session

Only you will see this timer during the session. For 6 men sharing, allow at least 20–25 minutes per card.

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Step 1
CHOOSE YOUR DECK
Select the deck for today's session
52
The Forge
52 cards · Creed & Forge
Men's Formation
52
The Covenant
52 cards · Husband & Wife
Couples Deck · Special Edition
52
Stoke the Fire
52 cards · Warm-Up Deck
Icebreaker · Podcast · Session Opener
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Step 2
DRAW A CARD
Session Timer
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Question 1
Question 2
Draw on your own story. Speak from experience, not theory.
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Where do you stand?
On a scale of 1–10, how do you rate yourself against this word right now?
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Stoke the Fire
WARM-UP DECK
One question. Answer it honestly. That's it.
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Preference
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Story
13 cards
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Here & Now
13 cards
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Wildcard
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